I’m happy you’re here. I’ll go first: I’m a full-time journalist turned work-at-home writer. I’m hitched to a shaggy-haired pastor and we’re smitten with two wild + crazy boys: Joseph (4) and Asher (1). I drink strong coffee, I like pretty things, and I believe there’s beauty in the broken.
I hope this little space will encourage you to find worth and live a story worth sharing.
What is Many Sparrows?
This little corner of the Internet aims to encourage women, spurring them on to find worth and live a story worth sharing.
God tells us He cares about the little things — even down to a teeny, tiny sparrow. And if He cares about a little bird, how much more does He care about us — who are worth far more than many sparrows? Let’s dwell in the truth that He loves us with an arms-stretched-out kind love. Let’s rest easy, knowing we’re valued, loved, and worth more than we can even fathom.
I’m a person who’s blemished and blessed. All good things in my life flow from Jesus. My mission is to reflect his generous, grace-filled love with all my heart, soul, and mind. I’m passionate about shedding religious cliches and living an authentic, Kingdom life. Sometimes I get frustrated and often times I fail. I’m a work in progress.
Find Your Worth & Live a Story Worth Telling
My heart is to use this corner of the Internet to make much of Jesus. To use my words to reflect the creator of all things who gives extravagant grace, who radiates beauty and light in a very dark world.
I’m a mama of two little boys, and sometimes I just need a space to talk about things like shift dresses and wedge booties and dry shampoo. Let’s share our secrets, shall we?
Motherhood is messy. My hope is that my words + stories can be an encouragement to you in your parenting journey.
Women are Scary. (You may see that I capitalized Scary, because it’s just that important. All my editing experience goes out the window when emphasizing blanket statements on my blog.)
So, just to reiterate: Women are Scary.
I realize that this means that I, too, am scary. Everyone who lives or has lived with me (shout out to college roommates!) can attest that I can be quite petrifying, especially before 10 a.m. But that’s neither here nor there.
What we’re here to talk about today is…making friends. Especially for those of us who take care of small humans. Our topic of the day? Momlationships.
Melanie Dale has written a book (Women Are Scary: The Totally Awkward Adventure of Friends Mom Friends) that has made me LOL (my favorite!) and also examine my heart when it comes to making friends of the mom variety. She dives deep into “dating” for moms. It’s good stuff. I’ve even taken steps out of my comfort zone because of it. I’ve embraced my weirdness, initiated random conversations at the park, attended story times, and even had a few coffee dates (Rounding second base, you guys!).
You have to watch that video. This woman deserves a fist-pump for going for it. I love people that own their weird and let their freak flag fly (Family Stone reference!). And while she is totally funny and peppers her work with movie quotes (Anchorman! Zoolander!), the heart of her words are so real.
Because ladies? As daunting/awkward/terrifying as it is to meet new friends and cultivate relationships…we need each other. We’re kinda built to do life together, to raise our little creatures together, to commiserate about potty training misadventures and chug copious amounts of coffee and hug each other when life gets hard.
But we live in an individual culture that values Mine! over Us! and it has hurt us. Any of us who have traveled to developing countries and have seen mamas who work together in community to raise their children can attest that here in the U.S. in 2015, we don’t have everything quite right.
Way before her book deal, Melanie has legitimately cared for mothers around the world, for ethical consumption of goods, for encouraging women to do what we can, right where we’re at. To be Kingdom dwellers and give others the opportunity to glimpse and enter into God’s goodness and grace.
We don’t lack food, clean water, or clothing, but we lack relationships. Whereas my friends in northern Uganda reside in small mud homes and live life together, outside, as a community, gathering at the borehole for water, working their gardens side by side, and looking out for each other’s children, we live in elaborate homes with multiple rooms and water that comes out our own faucets. We drive our cars into garages and close the doors behind us, and we can go days and weeks without interacting with the neighbors unless we’re intentional about making friends.
And while I will continue to champion the orphans and widows whom I love, I’ve realized that it’s no less noble to reach out to the hurting moms and kids right in my own community. If we can learn how to develop real, soul-soothing relationships, there’s no stopping what we can do together for our kids, our families, and the world. But first we have to stop being scary and scared of each other. (Melanie Dale, Women Are Scary)
I’m not getting paid to review Women Are Scary, but after reading an advanced copy I’d be remiss not to share this with you. Her team has generously offered to send a copy to a Many Sparrows reader. I’m a member of a local MOPS group and I would so love to get a copy of this into the hands of each frazzled, beautiful member of the tribe. (And, um, that’s all of us!)
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For the last two weeks, I’ve been starting my mornings nose-deep in Shauna Niequist’s new book Savor: Living Abundantly Where You Are, As You Are. It doesn’t disappoint, friends. She combines stories and scripture to create 365 devotional essays that are real while being eloquent, smart while having soul. She encourages women to slow down and savor the ordinary moments that comprise our everyday lives — those moments that are often overshadowed. Reading Savor has been so good for my soul.
“This collection is my attempt at paying attention, at clearing away space and noise, and inviting you to hear the drumbeat, too,” writes Niequist. “God’s always speaking, always. He’s always moving, always present, always creating, always healing. The trick, at least for me, is paying attention. The trick is savoring.”
I’ve been a fan of Shauna for awhile. Savor features work from her incredibly popular books Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, and Bread & Wine. Savor also includes new content and recipes for 21 dishes that have accompanied Shauna on her journey to soak in simple, everyday life. I’m a pretty avid reader, but Shauna’s writing always stands out, working it’s way into my heart, staying with me throughout the day. She has a way with words that just have me going, “Yes! That. Exactly that.”
“Things will not always be as they are now — there will be new things, other things, good things. But I don’t want to miss this, this right now, this sacred everyday. And I don’t want to only see the surface. I want to see the depths — the work of God all around me, in conversation and prayer and silence and music. I want to connect with the God who made me from dust, on purpose and for a purpose.”
As I’ve spent a few quiet moments with Savor each morning, I’ve noticed something. Shauna writes in a vulnerable way that strips down everything else, pulling you in with her stories, leaving you with so much to chew on. My editor’s heart loves reading her work because she writes in a descriptive and succinct style — something that’s actually pretty tough to pull off.
Also, can we just talk about how beautiful Savor is? Because oh my word. It’s gorgeous! It’s one of those books I’ve been leaving on my end table, because it’s just so…pretty. (It’s a bound linen hardcover featuring Lindsay Letters‘ work, and I think we can all agree that Lindsay Letters is kind of the best, right?) I’m so thankful to have received a copy of Savor for review — it’s the type of book that is a gift. Which is why I’m so thrilled I get to give away a copy to one of you lovelies. (Hey, girl, heyyyy!) I wish I could get a copy into each one of your hands, because I know you’ll be blessed by it.
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Friends, it is time. It is time to have an ever-important, life-altering conversation.
Yes, you guessed it. We need to talk about my hair.
Meaningful, right? But you have never steered me wrong before, whether it was bangs part one or bangs part two, or ombre, or more ombre, or a darker hue for winter. As seasons change, I will continue to crowd source my ‘do, thankyouverymuch.
So, let’s chat. I know what I want, but because I have a hard time relinquishing control, I’m nervous. As much as I’d love stylists extraordinaire Johnny Ramirez or Anh Co Tran to work their magic on my locks, I don’t think they’re coming to Iowa any time soon. Tear.
Because I feel the need to be annoying and overly specific to the hair stylist I choose to bear the burden of tackling my tresses, I want to narrow down my look to be as specific as possible.
Here’s what I’d like:
- Cut: Shoulder length to collarbone. This will be a big departure to me — my hair is borderline Rapunzel status right now. I’m itching to say sayanora to split-ends. Also, this will mean less hair for my toddler to pull. Amen.
- Color: Cover gray strands and lighten ends. Yes, if you’re keeping track, I’m 27 and unfortunately have grays! I like the look of balayage or ecaille (aka “tortoiseshell” in French). But, paying for color, highlights woven in, and a cut could be way out of my budget. Suggestions, please?
- Style: Loose waves. I’m a fan of a some volume at the crown and I’ve really been wanting to try my hand at some sea-salt texturizing spray. Summer is on the horizon, and while I’m landlocked here in Iowa, I’m antsy for a beachy feel. (And a look I can get with an air-dry? Plus!)
So, what do you think? Am I onto something here, or way off? I’m the girl who emailed a couple friends with a subject line along the lines of URGENT IMPORTANT PLEASE READ and it was about my hair. So…let’s chat, ladies!